Get Over It

Mar 9

March 9th is National “Get Over It Day”. Yes there is really a day for that. Telling someone to just get over something can sound harsh. However, it may be some of the best advice you ever receive. It’s likely that you are being more harsh, and causing more damage to yourself by not getting over it, whatever it is. This doesn’t mean that how you feel isn’t important, but not getting over it, prevents you from truly moving forward with your life. 

What do you need to get over? Maybe it’s an ex. Maybe it’s an opportunity you really wanted that didn’t workout. Maybe it’s an offense or someone gossiping about you. Maybe it’s a mistake that you made that you haven’t forgiven yourself for. All of those things, while they may hurt your feelings or be disappointing, they are not worth holding on to. 

So how can you start to “get over it” today. My advice is nothing new: Forgive and Forget.

Forgiveness sounds good in theory, but it can be harder to put into practice. When someone wrongs you forgiving them is usually not the first thought that comes to mind. But what about when the person you need to forgive is yourself. Sometimes it’s easier to extend compassion to others, before giving it to yourself. When we do this we hold ourselves in the prison of the past. But we also hold the key to our freedom. Get over it. We all make mistakes. Dwelling on them will not change the outcome or the future. The only way to do that is to learn from the situation and move forward. We don’t know what we don’t know,  and when we know better, we can do better. In the meantime, forgiveness and compassion is the best way forward.

Nothing says you are over it more than forgetting about it. Now go with me here. I know the saying goes “I will forgive, but I will never forget”. I find that when people say this, what they mean is “I won’t throw it in your face, but I will think about it quite frequently”. This leads me to another popular saying: “Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die”. Anger and resentment can affect your health in ways you may not realize. Holding on to things you need to get over leads to anxiety, high blood pressure, and even recurring headaches and migraines. Do yourself a favor and get over it. Don’t let it take up room in your head, or in your spirit. You are causing more harm to yourself, than anyone else. If what you need to get over involves another person, it may be better to let the relationship go and forgive, than to hold on to the relationship and the resentment. Holding on to things from the past steals the joy that you could have today.

Energy flows where attention goes. If all of your energy is in your past disappointments, what energy will you have left for the things you truly want to manifest. You are stunting your own growth, and blocking your own joy, by holding on to things that no longer benefit you. You have to make a conscious decision to grow through what you go through, and the only way to do that is to let “it” go. Get Over It.